so many times when we are going through pain, we are told to get over it, move on and let it go. they don't understand how slow this hurt heals. the world offers so many ways to numb the pain, but they are only temporary fixes. and if we turn to them, then we aren't allowing God to heal our hurt. allowing Him to search and heal our hearts is the only true way to have them healed. only He knows the deepness and complexity of our pain.
In quietness and trust is your strength, but you would have none of it
Isaiah 30:15
don't suffer through your grief alone. don't be unwilling to be vulnerable with God. and please, even though you are angry, don't blame God. give Him your heart, hand it over to Him to search and find all those little pieces of hurt and allow His hands to heal it as only He can.
Search me O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts; and see if there be any hurtful way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way
Psalm 139:23-24
when it feels like all hope is lost, hand that relationship over to God. often times the relationship, once it has endured the storm, will come out of it stronger and new. through all the conversations, all the deepness, you now know each other differently. this is the blessing of true healing from the hands of God.