ignite the fire of your marriage {kindness}

yesterday morning as i was blogging, i realized i had forgotten this weeks installment of the "ignite the fire of your marriage" series.  this week has been filled with such craziness that it absolutely slipped my mind.  so, off i went to see what this weeks subject was.

and i was floored.

kindness.  wow.  so, i think when you feel God is speaking directly to you, you had best sit up and listen.  the topic of kindness has rang through my household this week.  i made this post on sunday about being kind to your littles.  and tomorrows post on submission kinda sorta ties in with this as well.  

Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. 
 Ephesians 4:32

i think kindness could be boiled down to 3 little words...love in action.  when you are operating from a true heart of kindness, you will be extra careful how you treat your spouse.  you would never want to be unnecessarily harsh or hurt their feelings.  we need to be sensitive to their feelings and tender with our words.  even if you need to say hard things, we need to remember to speak the truth in love.

Do not let kindness and truth leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good repute in the sight of God and man
Proverbs 3:3–4

i think if we asked our husbands what they wanted, they would all agree on one thing...a girlfriend.  now, before you fly off the handle i certainly don't mean another woman entering your relationship.  what i mean is, think back to those first months of dating.  when the only label you had was "girlfriend".  you complimented him, asked him if he needed anything and pursued him.  you wanted to make sure he always felt appreciated.  you wanted to let him know, through your actions, how much he meant to you.  

then you got married.  and had babies.

now you are sleep deprived, the bills seem never ending, the house needs cleaned, dishes need done and does. the. laundry. never. end.?  the last thing on your mind is being your husbands girlfriend.  but, why is that?  why is it that it's soooo easy for us to give our all to everyone around us and only give our husbands the left-overs?  

i want to be a wife who never stops pursuing my husbands heart.  i want to be a wife who makes sure, day in and day out, that my husband knows he is appreciated, wanted and respected.  i want to be a wife who has a smokin' hot marriage.  how can i get that?


a thriving marriage requires kindness.  it requires putting your own feelings, tiredness, sassy-mouth and selfishness aside.  it means intentionally showing thoughtfulness, compassion and sympathy to your husband.  these are the moments that will build more trust in your marriage.  the moments you can use to grow your love.  the moments that will get you that smokin' hot marriage, yeow yeow ;)

don't wait to be kind to your husband. don't only give him the parts that are left of you at the end of the day.

be his girlfriend!

this weeks challenge...ignite the fire of kindness in your home this week. be intentional about showing your husband kindness this week. plan a date just for him, treat him to his favorite meal, honor him with your words, and make him feel incredibly special. 

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