Does The World Hate Girls?


My 14 year old daughter was told something yesterday that broke my heart {and made her 16 year old brother mad}...the only women that wait until marriage to have sex are either molested or are perfect little Christian girls.

I shouldn't be surprised, but, I was.  I knew purity wasn't something being taught but I didn't sure didn't imagine there was a belief that to be a virgin you must have been molested.  My heart was so saddened.

When did the world start hating our daughters?  How do we raise girls in a world that obviously devalues them?  How do we encourage purity when the rest of the world hates it?

The world does it's very best every single day to degrade the marriage bed. Purity isn't something that is admired in the world, it's mocked to no end. In fact, I saw a quote online that said "virginity is not dignity, it's lack of opportunity". You can even buy a t-shirt with that quote on it.  I was reading an article on purity and, as you can imagine, people were tearing it apart. There were comments such as “Purity isn't a reality in this day and age,” “Sex outside marriage is not wrong,” and “Abstinence doesn't work".

We live in an anything-goes society. Although 80 percent of the country identifies themselves as Christians, sex outside marriage has become a common occurrence and is thought of as an event of little consequence. With statements of "Well what can you do" ringing through the air.

And the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. 
Mark 10:8-9 

Sex is good. Hello, God created it...He called it “good,” and it existed before there was any sin in the world. Sex was not created by Satan, Playboy, the Internet or some creepy pervert lurking in the shadows of a porn shop. However, God wants us to keep sex within his intentions and requirements, not the world’s. God designed sex for the sacred union of marriage between a man and a woman, and reserves it for that union.

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
Hebrews 13:4

Purity is beautiful. Valuable. Precious. An amazing gift given to us by God to give to our spouse. There is a much better way, Gods way. His plan is certainly better than any we could make! God loves you and thinks you are so precious! He absolutely treasures you. He wants you to save your body and your heart for the one person you will spend your life with. The one person you will enter into that amazing covenant of marriage with. Think of what an amazing gift you would be able to give your future spouse on your wedding day. Not only would you be giving them your whole heart but you could also give them your whole body as well. What an awesome gift that would be!

Oh sweet Mama's, don't give up on your girls.  Don't be embarrassed to talk to them about it.  I guarantee if you aren't talking to them about it, someone is.  If you don't tell them your views the world will be quick to them it's view.  Tell them that purity is cool (although the world would never tell you that). Just look around, we are constantly bombarded by sex. When you fall in love, it's natural to want to express your love in physical ways. But you also know God wants you to remain sexually pure—in both your actions and your thoughts. Sometimes it's a tough balance, but showing love for another and remaining pure is possible. Respect yourself, respect your partner but most importantly respect God. And remember, you're a lady! Make him treat you as one!

Girls...you are beautiful and perfect the way God made you, you are His masterpiece. You do NOT need to conform to what the media is trying to pressure you into. Don't listen to the lies of the world. You are beautiful and precious just the way you are. Purity is where true freedom is found...the freedom of knowing that your Heavenly Father has your life all figured out and you are happy to just take the ride.

Our daughters are precious, intrinsically valuable and deserve better — they deserve to be cherished and protected. -Amy Gerwing






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