The Argument-Free Marriage {Book Review}


The Argument-Free Marriage
28 Days to Creating the Marriage You've Always Wanted with the Spouse You Already Have
By Fawn Weaver

About the book:
New York Times best-selling author Fawn Weaver challenges readers to declare peace in their marriages-and shows how it really can happen. 
Is an argument-free marriage possible? Fawn Weaver's answer is yes, absolutely, even when one or both partners are strong willed, independent, and opinionated. (She admits to being all three.) In this groundbreaking book, the best-selling author and award-winning marriage blogger asks readers to invest twenty-eight days in learning how to live together without bickering, blame, angry outbursts, or silent treatments. 
Fawn begins with the startling premise that, contrary to popular opinion, conflict in marriage is not necessary or inevitable. Then she leads readers on a day-by-day journey toward a more peaceful and supportive relationship. Chapter by brief chapter, she offers fresh perspectives and practical strategies for communicating effectively, building understanding, and defusing anger while at the same time nurturing honesty, vulnerability, and mutual support.  
I'm sure if I asked who wanted an argument free marriage, I'd see all sorts of hands going up...including my own!  I can speak for my own marriage, most of our arguments are over small things and when the argument is over, sometimes I even have trouble remembering why it even started.

Fawn says that she is outspoken, so for her, an argument free marriage may be a difficulty. Boy, can this outspoken girl relate to that!  One of the hardest things for me to do is keep my mouth shut and walk away from an argument.  I have this deep desire to always get the last word in, and to be right.  Not my most endearing qualities.

In the book, Fawn says that there are 3 things that are essential in creating an argument-free marriage, and that these can be replicated in any relationship one desire’s to last a lifetime (marriage, siblings, parents, children): Understand and obey the law of acceleration, Stick to the original emotion and Keep at the forefront of your mind this indisputable fact: that tomorrow may never come.

The author’s tips are basic—things we know but too often don’t follow: don’t go to bed angry, for instance.  Actually, this may be basic but it's a pretty big one.  From my own experience, I can tell you when I've went to bed angry I just never sleep well that night.  The Bible even says in Ephesians 4:26 to not let the sun go down while you're angry.

There were many pearls pf wisdom in this book. And Fawn has delivered in this book what she does with her website: disseminating encouraging messages about how marriages can thrive.

This book was provided to me free of charge by Book Look in return for my honest review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

Fawn Weaver, a USA Today and New York Times and bestselling author, is an investor, marriage advocate, TEDx alum and the founder of the Happy Wives Club, a community of nearly 1,000,000 women in more than 110 countries.

The Club's website, HappyWivesClub.com, is an upbeat blog dedicated to positively changing the tone about marriage. Twice named the Best Marriage Site on the web by About.com, HappyWivesClub.com is the go-to place for women wanting to read about the "sunny side" of marriage and get tips on taking a marriage from good to great and from great to extraordinary.

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