Children love seeing their parents get affectionate, whether they admit it or not. I'm sure they may not act like it and you might hear shouts of gross or yuck. But deep down they don't hate it nearly as much as they let on. Normally, the shouts are said with a smile on their face.
I think it's great for kids to see their Mom and Dad putting their relationship first. Most of the time, especially in today's society, the opposite happens. Parents are making their kids a priority and at the end of the day, they just don't have any time left for each other. The kids grow up and leave home and the parents are left looking at each other like strangers.
It's so important that our kids can watch us giving our spouse love and respect. That they can see we are still pursuing our spouses heart. The byproduct is that our children can watch their parents dating. When children see their parents giving each other time, affection, and respect it is a reassurance of our love and makes them feel secure.
Our kids are watching us. They are learning to be comfortable with affection and to be affectionate with their own partner in the long run. They are learning from us what marriage looks like.
Don't ever be afraid to kiss your husband in front of your littles, dance with him in the kitchen and hold his hand. Pursue his heart. Show them your romance. What an absolutely perfect place for them to learn about love!
Here is one of my fav stories...
A few years ago the kids and I went to visit my Grandma in the nursing home. We were there during lunch and sat in the dining room with her. There were many tables in the room with people scattered around them. One table in particular caught my attention. The entire table was empty except for an elderly man and woman, sitting right beside each other arm to arm. I thought it was totally cute and figured they were married. Grandma told me they weren't married, they were just "dating". My heart did a little sigh, oh how cute that was!
On the drive home, the kids and I were talking about that couple and how cute it is that they are "dating" when they are probably in their 80's or older. And Jade made a statement that not only made me laugh but also made me stop and think that maybe, just maybe, her Dad and I ARE showing them what marriage should look like.
Jade said...When I'm old, I hope my husband still slaps my butt when I walk past him.
Now I'm not saying by any means that Joe and I are inappropriate BUT we are a very affectionate family. I love you is a daily statement in our household between all of us. Hugs and kisses are never, ever spared. And yes, there might be an occasional butt slap when I walk past him.
We are not only telling our kids what a happy, healthy marriage looks like, we are showing them! Go ahead, embarrass your littles. Show them your healthy marriage. Pursue your husbands heart and plant a big ole' smooch on him today.